Legendary martial artist and philosopher Bruce Lee once said, “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
The man had a point.
Do you bicker with your significant other over things that really don’t matter? It happens to all of us at one point or another (me included!) and at times it can become paralysing.
But here’s the thing. You can stop it from manifesting, and you can stop it IMMEDIATELY.
It’s all about how you see things – and if you take a leaf out of Mr. Lee’s book, you’ll be well on your way.
Have a think back to the last argument or spat you had. What was it about?
Chances are, when you boil things down, it was that your partner didn’t meet your EXPECTATIONS.
They didn’t take out the bin.
They forgot to be at home 10 minutes early to leave for an appointment.
They weren’t paying attention.
So you got frustrated.
And one thing led to another and before you knew it…BLOW UP.
At the end of the day, does any of that small, insignificant stuff REALLY MATTER?
Not. One. Bit.
Imagine if you had put that time you spent arguing and carrying on to better use?
The solution to stopping the arguments and getting those hours back is simple – swap out your expectations for appreciation.
Change the channel.
Tune RIGHT IN.
Pay attention when they do the dishes.
Or buy your flowers.
Or call just to say hi.
If you stop focusing on your expectations not being met and instead focus on being grateful for all the amazing things they bring to your life, you’ll find you’ll both be MUCH happier.
You’ll also remember why you fell in love in the first place…
Prioritise gratitude and park your expectations FAR away.
You’ll be hella glad you did!