You’ve been taught to say yes to things you’d much rather say no to and to agree to do things that aren’t in line with what you really want. We don’t want to rock the boat and we want to avoid conflict.
This behaviour however - saying YES without even thinking - definitely DOES NOT SERVE YOU.
It oversteps your boundaries and causes you to lose your own way. That’s the exact opposite of what we want to acheive.
Because of this we very often do things that we don’t want to do or things that go against our “flow”. Our natural vibe.
The best thing to do to combat this behaviour? Become aware of it and learn a new, magical word.
You guessed it.
Sometimes NO can be a little uncomfortable. So, let’s start small.
Next time someone asks something of you and you don’t want to do it, say something like: “I’d love to help, but I just don’t have the time right now. Thanks for thinking of me though!”
This takes the rough edge off things if you are worried about sounding too harsh. It still gets you the same result. This will take some getting used to, but NO can be the most empowering word in your vocabulary.
Remember - IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. You were taught to please. NOW - It’s time to look after YOURSELF first.